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Relationship Advice from Dr. Luvmore |
Dear Dr. Luvmore,
My boyfriend and I have been together over 2 years now.
We have had ups and downs, mainly due to the hatred his mother feels for me.
I understand how difficult it must be for him, but our relationship is at a standstill, because he wants his mother's approoval.
We've talked about marriage and kids but he can't make that final step.
He has recently told me that he wouldn't hesitate if things were different between his mother and I and it's breaking my heart.
I have a young son, and I feel desperate to have a baby soon. I don't want a huge age gap between children and I feel it to be really important that my son has a sibling of similar age.
I want to train to become a midwife but I don't think I could handle seeing new life being brought into the world when I wouldn't be me creating it.
I've tried to build a civil relationship with his mum, but she reduces me to tears with her abuse.
Help me!
Mistreated
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Dear Mistreated,
There's an old saying, "when you marry someone, you marry their family."
This is a very difficult situation for both of you. The only answers lie in either you working things out with his mother, or him breaking away from her (which doesn't sound likely - or he would have by now).
If you can, try to get to the bottom of what is motivating his mother's dislike for you.
Talk to her if you can - if things are impossible to repair between the two of you, then you need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend.
Although I don't think you should be desperately trying to hurry a second child into the world right now, you can't wait around for him forever.
If things don't work out between the two of you, let things happen, meet new people, but don't rush in to anything.
You will likely find someone when and where you least expect it.
Dr. Luvmore
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