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Relationship Advice from Dr. TRuth
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Dear Dr. TRuth,
I really need some advice. I recently met this girl at orientation for this new
job I started, it is at a huge office so we don't really work
together.
I think she is really great and I want to
get to know her better. The thing is I'm already in a relationship and
have a girlfriend.
We have been dating for about one
and a half years now. She has broken up with me on
several occassions but I always managed to kiss up and
get her back.
She hasn't broken up with me because I
cheated or anything like that, it's just that we are
both so different and we both sometimes agree that
we are not compatible.
Now this
other girl that I met seems to like me but she is
always so busy, she goes to school full time and
works part time. When I call her she never
really has time to talk to me and says that she will
call me back but then she doesn't.
Is she just playing games ? Maybe
she is still immature, I don't know?
I just can't stop thinking about this girl and I know it's not
fair to the girl I have been with the past year and
a half.
I don't know what to do.
Should I pursue
this new girl and risk losing something that is
already there or should I stay with the old girl and
maybe get dumped again in the future?
I can't get this new girl off my mind.
Tortured
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Dear "Tortured"
I don't think either of these girls is "the one."
First of all, think about this!
You are actually
emotionally cheating on your present girlfriend by
asking another woman out.
Second, you have unresolved
issues with woman #1 and nothing ever gets resolved.
She dumps you, you kiss up, and you are back together.
Does anything ever really get talked over or worked
out? I don't think so. So you have to decide about
Woman #1 before you make any other moves.
When and if you decide to be free of this highly neurotic
relationship, you can figure out if Woman #2 who, by
the way, has not given you any signals that she is
interested, is available.
Relationships aren't there just so you won't be lonely, they are
there because you learn to honestly care for and love
somebody.
It sounds to me like you are only with the
first woman because you can't be alone and now you
like someone else but you are still with the first
woman just in case it doesn't work out with the second
woman!
Does this make any sense to you at all, because
I certainly don't see it!
Maybe you need to take some
time to yourself and figure out what you really want
in a woman.
After that, you will be emotionally free
to choose someone who can love and value you for
yourself.
Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth
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