Body language, signs, signals, non-verbal communication, secret language

Body Language Secrets - Positive and Negative Indicators

Dating and Body Language

Body language, the secret language. What are they really telling you and what are you saying to another person with a twist of your head, arm or foot position? The person you are with may be saying one thing with their mouth, but many psychologists state that 80% of the messages we send are sent with our body and facial movements and only 20% with our words.

This high percentage makes it imperative that you are aware of your own and the other person's secret body language when you are communicating in order to really understand the true meaning of what is going on between the two of you. For example, you can say that you would like to go out with someone while they are talking about getting together, but if you have your arms crossed over your chest, you are really telling them 'no' or you're not sure as the crossed arms send up a protection message that serves as a barrier between you and the other person. Their brain, consciously or subconsciously, will believe that you really don't want to get together and they may not follow through with their proposal...

  • Positive Body Language

    The other person moves slightly toward you - decreasing the space between the two of you - if they feel positively about what you are saying or doing.Positive body language

    He or she may:
    - Lean in towards you
    - Point their feet toward you
    - Uncross legs
    - Arms uncrossed and open, palms up
    - Playfully fondle jewelry, hair or smooth shirt sleeve or collar
    - Smile extended
    - Prolonged eye contact
    - Look down shyly

  • Negative Body Language

    Other person moves slightly away from you - increasing the space between the two of you - if they feel uncomfortable or negatively about what you are saying or doing.
    He or she may:
    - Lean away from you
    - Point feet away from you -- in another direction
    - Cross legs
    Negative body language - Cross arms
    - Palms of hands are down - or hands are closed
    - Rubbing eyes, scratch nose or rub back of their neck - with elbow pointed toward you
    - Not smiling -- slight frown or hint of gramace
    - Not focusing on you, but turning eyes away and to the side

    Paying attention to the other person's basic body language, signals and non-verbal cues can help improve your dating skills immensely.

    Use the signs and you can figure out how your partner feels about most of what you do or what you are talking about.

    Send the same type of signals with your own body language to maximize success.

    In the final analysis, you will be seem more attractive and persuasive and may become more empathetic in the process.

    Positive and negative body language signals
    For example: the girl on the left, arms crossed, not really smiling, may not be happy her date is on the phone. Girl on the right, arms uncrossed, open smile -- looks much happier.

    Check some of the following basic non-verbal cues and you'll recognize that you already speak and translate much of the language.

    I really don't know! "Dunno."
    "Beats me!"

    Mother: "Listen up."

      Bummer.   Daughter: "Lemme outa here."

    Okay.  Very surprised.
    "I'm surprised!"
    Holy molie!
    "Well, I'm shocked!"


    "You're wrong!"
    "No, you're wrong!"
    Really pretty depressed.


      Oh, yes!   "All right!"

    Even though his fist is clenched, you can tell that this dude's way happy.

    Better think fast, buddy.

    "I don't know why I even bother going out with you!"


    Tell me how we communicate EVERYTHING without saying a word... Body Language 101 page.

    Let me read about what couples are really telling each other in their conversations and on dates and see if I can pass the Body Language quizzes.

    OR if you're interested if flirting, you might want to check out:
    How to tell if HE likes YOU!?


    Flirting signals?

    OR - start with eye contact and work up from there...
    OR - read up on the science of flirting and our animal instincts...

    About Links 2 Love | Policy & Legal Information | Contact Us |

    Copyright© All Rights Reserved

  • Valentine Cards

    Valentine Ideas

    Valentine Love Poem

    Great Dating

    Great Advice!

    Letters to
    Dr. TRuth


    Body language, signs, signals, secret language of our bodies, we tell someone everything, but not with words, with a flick of the hair, twist of the mouth, arm or foot positions, eye movement and with hundreds of non-verbal secret clues that are interpreted by someone else and tell them exactly what we're saying whether we want to or not -- non-verbal communication - the secret language revealed! Positive and negative body language.