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Relationship Advice from Dr. TRuth |
Dear Doctor TRuth,
I have been seeing a guy, for a while now. He is not my boy friend but we
spend a lot of time together.
Problem is he refuses to kiss me. Don't get me
wrong we have done everything else but kiss.
I'm 22 and he is 24, and he says he doesn't kiss because he did it so much
in high school that he got tired of
it.
How do people get tired of kissing. I'm desperate, we have had many
arguments over the issue and I don't want to just go ahead and kiss him cause
he obviously doesn't want to and I don't want to feel like I'm disrespecting
him.
I feel we are in the movie pretty women except he's the prostitute and
I'm just the girl, since he won't kiss.
What can I do?????
I mean is he just afraid of getting emotionally attached
if he kisses me? or could he be BI.
I mean a guy at his age
should be more mature about things.
Well please help this is really bothering me.
Thanks,
Wishing
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Dear "Wish to be kissed"
You are right. Kissing is very intimate and I, like
you, feel that he may be avoiding making real contact
with you.
In a sense, though you've done everything
else, he is distancing himself in a way that is
unacceptable to you. You have obviously communicated
your need to him and he won't do it.
Now it's up to you to decide if this is tolerable to you.
I don't think he's "bi" but I do think that this indicates
deeper issues around intimacy. See if you can get him
to communicate further. Perhaps he has some trauma
involving the erogenous feelings around the lip area.
If other things are good however, this may be just his
issue and not an indication of how he feels about you.
If you enjoy his company and you communicate well in
other areas, give it some time. He may come around.
In the meantime, try not to take this personally. I
doubt it is an indication of anything to do with you.
Let me know how it goes.
Above all, he should be able
to understand that this means something to you and be
able to discuss it.
Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth
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