Relationship Advice from Dr. TRuth
Dear Dr. TRuth,
I've been involved in a relationship with a guy for one year.
relationship was perfect until after the eighth month
when I found out my
boyfriend is living with his daughter's mother.
realized this when I
noticed that he did not give me a phone number, let
alone invite me over to
I told him I did not feel comfortable with
his living arrangement.
He assures me that
his living situation was
not always this way, he's only looking out for his
little girl, the mother
has a separate room in the house and they are no
longer intimate and haven't
been for sometime.
To this day he still practically
spends all of his time
with me and goes home very late in the evening.
says the only reason he
goes home at night and spends most of his weekends
away from me is so he can
dedicate some time to his daughter.
I love this guy to
death because not only is
he there for me, he's helpful, takes me on trips,
gives me advise, doesn't
ask for me anything and the list continues.
as his living
arrangement seems, I need to know if there's a
possibility he could be
telling the truth about the relationship between he
and his daughter's mother or
am I just completely out of my mind for remaining in
a relationship with
Please give an honest opinion.
What can I say.
I've heard of stranger arrangements.
This is something only you can decide.
intuition and ask yourself what you want with this
Are you considering marriage in the future?
so, is he willing to leave his current living
Have the two of you discussed having any
kind of future together?
I know several couples
through my practice who have had this type of
arrangement and it is always a very individual thing.
I guess my answer in this case would depend on how
close you feel to him and if the two of you are able
to communicate about planning some kind of future