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Relationship Advice from Dr. TRuth |
Dear Dr. TRuth,
I recently met a man in a semibusiness environment
and was instantly attracted to this man.
It caught me off guard and I
did a double take after
looking away from his eyes and I believe he saw it.
So I think he may have
been trying to flirt a little and made a comment
while looking down and
smiling "anything you need all you have to do is
ask."
So I didn't know if
I should be offended and I guess I was a little
standoffish the next time I
was in his company and he was rude right back.
I
was just wondering if
you thought it is all lost ??
What should I do ??
Sometimes flirting is hard
especially is you don't know if your attraction is
returned .
Thank you
Failed flirt
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Dear FF,
I agree! It takes a lot of self confidence to be a
successful flirt.
You have to be really sure of your
looks and appeal to pull it off well.
Further, it's
hard to kind of "put it out there" without being
assured that your interest will be returned.
From the
situation you described, this guy was definitely
responding to your cues. He acted interested when he
sensed your interest but when you didn't respond he
became hostile and backed off.
By asking the question
he did, he gave you a clear and open message to take
him up on his offer, then felt rejected when you acted
standoffish.
I think the chemistry was there. I just
don't think either of you know what to do with it. My
advice for the next time you see him is to smile at
him, hold his eye contact and be very nice and
friendly.
No harm can come of this and it is not too
obvious. See what he does with it!
Believe me, eye
contact is the way to do it.
Good luck.
Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth
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