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Love advice for a guy who's the 'life of the party' until he likes a girl then suddenly he becomes 'boring' - tongue-tied, quiet and at a loss...

   Relationship Advice for a Tongue-tied Guy from Dr. TRuth

Dear Dr. TRuth,

Hey doc, there's this girl that I really like, but every time I try to talk to her I have absolutely nothing to say.

I met her because my friend introduced me to her, and just the other day I went to her house.

I was really boring and didn't really say anything but I'm usually the life of the party when I'm around my friends. This isn't the first time that this has happened either, actually it happens every time I meet a nice girl.

Can you give me some help?


Dear Boring

You suffer from getting tongue-tied but only around the girls you like. I don't know if it helps you to know that everyone is like this.

You get shy in these situations because you feel you have something to lose.

What this tells me about you is that beneath your "life of the party" exterior, you probably lack some self-esteem. You are afraid that if you put yourself out there with someone who means something to you, you will get rejected.

There is a wide range of behavior from introvert to extrovert. In these situations, try to not focus on yourself, but on how the girl in question might be feeling.

You can flirt but in a subtle way.

Here's how: smile, look into her eyes, touch her arm, laugh at her jokes, compliment her and ask her questions about herself.

This will take some of the focus off you. No one can resist someone who acts appreciative of them. Try it.

What is the worst that can happen. All she can do is reject you.

If she rejects you, whatever! Someone else will like you.

We all get rejected a lot before we meet the right person, but if we don't "go for it", we lose many opportunities that could turn into something good.

Just remember, other people feel as shy and insecure as we do. The really popular people know how to rise above their own insecurity and make others feel comfortable and safe.

Try it, it works.

Dr. TRuth

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Love advice for a guy who's the life of the party until he likes a girl - then he's tongue-tied and "boring"...