Help Yourself (Out of Misery)
A Brief Guide to True Unhappiness
(How to make yourself and everyone around you truly miserable)
By Dr. TRuth
What follows is a guide for those who, in spite of the
beauty, wonder and majesty of the world around them,
persist in self-defeating and destructive behaviors.
While most of my writing deals with attempts to be
happy and joyful, I really can't neglect those who,
despite the love and bounty that is available to each
of us, choose the opposite path.
following beliefs and behaviors are widely practiced,
and are very effective in making not only ourselves
but those closest to us really miserable.
1. Be a perfectionist.
Don't allow or tolerate
mistakes in yourself and others. It is important to be
especially hard on those closest to you because they
are dependent on you for praise and approval.
2. Compare yourself with others.
Remember, the grass
is always much much greener on someone else's lawn.
Contentment and joy lie completely out of your own
reach and always will come to others before they come
to you because they are probably more deserving,
smarter or better looking. Never evaluate yourself
according to your own progress. Watch others and see
how well you stand up when compared to them. After
all, other people's values and standards are always
more important than your own and can really make you
unhappy when they don't go along with yours.
3. When in doubt, chicken out.
If you really want to
be unhappy, it is super important not to confront your
fears and doubts. No one will really know that you
might feel bad or inadequate and you can't possibly
look foolish if you stay within your comfort zone.
Avoid risk-taking or self-challenging behavior at all
costs. If someone confronts you, whine. That is the
most effective way of shirking responsibility. On top
of that, you will get nowhere fast.
4. Avoid responsibility completely.
goes wrong, absolutely blame someone else. That way,
you can avoid people getting mad at you because it
will always be someone else's fault. If things go
wrong, it will never be about something you did and
you can get away with just about anything.
5. When overwhelmed-slack off!
ever work too hard to accomplish a goal. It probably
won't be worth it anyway. You can always nap or watch
TV. It's hard to lose contact with soap opera plot
lines. They do get so complicated that they require
almost complete and undivided attention. Paying
attention to their stories as they unfold allows you
to keep abreast discussions about the characters and
you will be able to discuss them intelligently.
Besides, hard work takes effort and why should you
expend yourself unnecessarily.
6. Spend money freely and without restraint.
Buy yourself whatever you want.
Don't hold back. It's really important to
wear the latest trends in clothes and to
have the latest technology in gadgets and
equipment. because these things make
life important and more meaningful. We
all know that material goods and
happiness go hand in hand so why be
self-limiting. Go for it.
7. Hold grudges.
The world is out to get you.
People are mean and those who have
harmed you deserve to suffer. Take revenge
and never let go of any real or
imagined hurt. Collect injustices and pay
back all unkindness. Not letting go
of pain is the way to go to stay stuck in
suffering and will really prevent you from
moving on. Forgiveness and letting go is way
8. Take everything personally.
It really is
all about you. People probably have
little else on their minds except making
your life miserable. All slights
that come your way are intentional and
purposeful. Never give anyone the
benefit of the doubt.
9.Blame your parents for the condition of your life
you can escape responsibility for taking
charge of your life in the
present. This rule goes right along with
not forgiving and letting go.This
way, you can accumulate pain and remain
immobile. Mom and Dad really did it to
you and it is all their fault that you have problems
10. Lastly, see everything as black or white, good or
bad, heaven or hell.
Being inflexible and rigid will help you see things
the way eight year olds do.
You won't have to worry about going with the flow,
dealing with others
effectively, growing up, or understanding the way
life works. It also
allows you to condemn other's behavior because you
won't have to deal
with confusing ambiguity or ambivalence.
Remember, if you follow these rules, you will be truly
unhappy and will make not only yourself but those
around you, your family and friends, truly miserable.
Opting to utilize these destructive beliefs will
absolutely prevent you from living well and from
maximizing your true potential as a magnificent and
evolved human being. The choice is yours.
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