|
I'm in Love with a Guy Who's 10 Years Older AND has Girlfriend
|
Dear Dr. TRuth,
Hi, I am 18 and at my job I met one of my best
friends in this whole world.
He is 10 years older
than me, but I have never met anyone that I get
along better with then him.
He seems to be perfect
for me, we rarely fight and when we are together all
we do is laugh and have a great time.
He has been
heard saying to me that he hasn't had this much fun
in years, whenever we do anything.
The thing
is.....during this friendship I have developed, of
course the biggest crush on him. Crush doesn't seem
strong enough.
I already love him as my friend but
I am in love with him too. I can't see him without
thinking how wonderful of a couple we would make.
And I can't sit next to him with out wanting to kiss
him. And this isn't this kind of situation where I
don't want to tell him because I think it would ruin
our friendship.
He already knows how I feel, and he
does feel the same way about me.
I know he cares
about me and that he does love me too. We have done
just about everything a couple would do together, including sleep
together numerous times.
BUT...he has a girlfriend.
I feel completely awful..she is wonderful and my
friend.
But whenever I get near this guy I lose
that inner voice that tells me this is wrong and I
go through with it all anyway.
I hear the blunt
truth from everyone, that he would never leave her
for me. I just can't understand why I have met this
truly perfect match for me and I can't be with him,
it is unfair. And as much as I love to hang out
with him, it hurts me just as much.
I am just so
confused and everyone tells me - well he cheated on
her, he will on you, but for some odd reason I am
willing to accept that.
I would just rather be his
best friend where he secretly grabs my ass and we
both laugh then tell him I can't do this anymore
and lose him all together.
I just don't know how
the rest of my life will be we never end
up dating, or married as everyone thinks, since in
life you are supposed to look for that person you can be
with everyday for
the rest of your life and who truly brings out the best in you.
I already found mine and I can't be with him.
I would
rather be alone then having to settle with someone
that will give me half of the good times my friend
has already given in a year.
Lonely in Love
|
|
Dear L in L,
You already know all the answers.
You must stop this
relationship immediately and trust in your inner
voice.
He is a man with another woman who is cheating
on her to be with you.
Since he won't leave her, to
stay in this situation will be incredibly painful for
you now and in the future.
Staying with him will erode
your sense that you deserve a man of your own, and if
your friend ever finds out (and believe me, she will
eventually) you will lose her trust forever.
Women who
fall in love with men who are already "taken" betray
not only their friends but themselves as well.
Your
friend is acting immorally and is cheating on the one
he is with.
Your friends are right when they say that
even if he leaves her, he will do the same to you.
This man is playing a dangerous game and has trapped
you, a young woman ten years his junior, into playing
it with him.
He is taking advantage of your youth and
innocence and is being incredibly selfish emotionally.
I know you see this in your lucid moments and I know
these feelings are hard to handle but you must walk
away right now and not look back.
If hanging out with
him gets too painful, you will have to end the
friendship with him.
His behavior is inexcusable and
reprehensible.
Actually, he's not a very nice person,
is he?
Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth
|
|
Like this relationship advice page?
Send it to a friend!
 |
|
|
