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She Says She Likes ME, but She Won't Break Up with Her Boyfriend ...
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Dear Dr. TRuth,
I have been good friends with this girl for about 5
years and I started to
have feelings for her about 1 year ago and never had
the courage to tell her
because I thought it might ruin our
friendship.
But about 4 months ago I
told her about my feelings towards her and how I
have liked her for sometime.
The problem is that she has been going out with another guy
for about 7 months.
The
trouble is that she and I began to see each other
allot and she started to fall
for me also.
She says she loves me but she doesn't
want to break up with her
boyfriend because she says she is "afraid."
She
loves me but she also loves
her boyfriend.
What should I do? Try to wait things
out, or forget about her?
From,
in love
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Dear "in love"
Your "friend" is playing a dangerous game.
I do
believe you can be attracted to two guys but you can
only really love one.
I think she is afraid to rock
the boat and doesn't want to change anything. After
all, why should she? She has both of you eating out of
the palm of her hand.
Secondly, look at how she is
behaving towards her boyfriend. She is flirting
outrageously with another guy. In a sense, she is
being emotionally unfaithful to him!
What does this
tell you about her character? How do you think she
will act when she is with you? When another guy comes
along that she's attracted to, will she flirt with him
on the side as well?
Here's my advice: tell her that
while you have feelings for her, you don't think it's
fair to her boyfriend for her to behave this way. Tell
her that you don't think it is fair and honorable to
carry on secretly while she is in another
relationship.
Then, stop seeing her completely. Let
her miss you for a while. If she really loves you, she
will choose you. If she doesn't come to you on her
own, she never loved you anyway.
Make her choose, and,
while you're at it, think enough of yourself to find
someone who puts you first, not second, to someone she
already has.
Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth
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