Dear Dr. TRuth,
Hi.
How can I know that he is
the one?
Also how will I
know if the person really likes me instead of trying
to play me?
They are very
tricky out there.
Please help me determine those two
answers.
Thank you.
Wondering
Dear "Wondering"
Your questions are very clear but very
hard to answer.
Knowing whether or not someone is "the
one" takes a very long time.
Sometimes we meet someone
and become infatuated with them but that doesn't make
them or soulmate.
The strongest relationships I know
are based on a very deep friendship, respect and
mutual attraction.
If the person you are asking about
is someone you respect, someone who has similar life
goals to yourself, someone who you admire and who
admires you, someone who wants the same things you do,
someone you can really talk to, then, he might
possibly be "the one."
These are the qualities you
should be looking for if you truly want a long-term
relationship.
As far as knowing whether or not someone
is playing you, ask yourself the following:
1. Does he
call when he says he will?
2. Is he reliable, honest
and trustworthy?
3. Can you count on him for help and
friendship?
4. Does he tell the truth about his life
and other relationships?
5. Does he come from a family
which is intact and which has good values?
6. Is he
doing well in his life: job and other relationships?
If you can safely answer all of this in a way that is
satisfactory to yourself, the chances of you ending up
with a trickster will be greatly diminished.
Dr. TRuth
Dr. TRuth
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