Step One, Eye Contact!
Usually the first contact made with a "Potentially Interesting Person" (from this point forward they will be referred to as "PIPs") is eye contact. There are a few different types of eye contact.
There is the "Across the Room" eye contact, the "In Passing" eye contact (when a PIP is passing by you) and the all-important "Conversational" eye contact. Each is different in many respects,
but similar in that they are all ways of sneaking in communication without words.
In order for that contact to have the desired impact, it must be delivered well. It is fun and easy when you know how.
Perfecting this ability will be incredibly useful for you in meeting and attracting quality men!
So you're at the 7-Eleven, a restaurant or club, the market or any public place where you
see a PIP. How do you get from hmmm?. . . TO HIM! Often in these situations,
you'll need to make eye contact before a conversation can begin.
When making this kind of eye contact, remember that you are trying to convey a message
with your eyes. People have told me that they are no good at eye-contact flirting because
they always end up looking away - when really, this action is in fact conveying the desired
Think about it. If a man stares at you and when you look back at him he doesn't
end up looking away, you feel uncomfortable and intimidated - more like you're being
stalked than flirted with! A man will also feel uncomfortable if a woman overstays her
The ideal "Across the Room" eye-contact
flirt only makes contact for two or three seconds, and then shyly, must turn away. Usually this
will make you smile, which is again a perfect communication - friendly and pleasant. It shows
you're happy that he looked back and showed interest in you. Even blushing works in your favor, so don't try to hide it. In these ways, you are using your nervous energy to your advantage.
It's important that you let him catch you looking back at him. Subconsciously,
this tells him you are interested. If he doesn't catch you looking back at him,
he may decide you are not interested. Then he may not be able to get up the nerve to
come over and start a conversation with you.
Side note: If he's looking at you when you
look back at him, that's a pretty good sign he is interested in you.
If he isn't looking at you, that's not necessarily a sign that he's not interested in you.
In a situation where you have the time, this entire sequence of looking, looking away and
looking back, should repeat itself a few times before you move forward. This kind of
eye-contact flirting is most effective in a restaurant, club, or in line
at an amusement park or the DMV. Use it in any situation where you and the
PIP are going to be in the same place for a while.
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