Relationship Advice from Dr. TRuth
Dear Doctor TRuth:
A while ago, my friend and I both met the same girl. She is smart,
pretty and has a great personality. But, my friend got to her before I could
and now they're a couple.
I really like this girl, on the brink of just
plain love, and recently, I'm beginning to get the feeling she likes me too.
She's been acting strange around me, paying more attention to me, she's staying
closer to me than before and the like.
My friend and I have known each other
for 4 years now, he's my best frie
nd, and I don't want to do anything to
disturb that friendship.
But, I want your advice on what I should do, pursue
this girl at all costs, or just step aside and let my friend keep going
I see this girl throughout most of my day and usually they're together
so this has been tearing me apart!
Tell me what I should do.
Dear "Torn Apart,"
This is such a painful situation and I wish I had
better news for you.
While I do believe she is really
attracted to you, there is absolutely nothing you can
or should do while they are still together.
To make a
move on her at this point would betray your best
friend and you could never forgive yourself for that.
Second, if she is that unhappy, it is her
responsibility to do something about it. If she truly
doesn't love him anymore, she should not still be with
The best thing to do here is wait it out. My
guess is that this will not last to much longer if she
really wants someone else.
You need to start seeing
other people and at least fill up your hours with
things that make you feel better.
I get many letters like this. For some reasons, human
beings seem to adore triangles. Please try to move on
for the time being. I really believe that if you and
this girl are "meant to be", nothing will be able to
keep you apart. If you are not, there is nothing that
will bring you together!
As far as your friend goes,
tell yourself that you are glad he is happy and that
the same happiness will one day be yours whether with
this girl, or with someone much much better for you.