Relationship Advice from Dr. TRuth
Dear Doctor TRuth:
I'm 15 years old and I have never had a boyfriend.
It seems like everyone my
age (and younger!) is progressing with their love life, and I havn't even had
my first kiss!
I think I have a lot to offer, and I don't know why things
have ended up this way. I'm afraid I'm going to get so left behind that no
one will want me.
I like a few guys, but they hardly know I exist. It's
especially hard for me because I just moved to a new town a year ago and I
still don't know anyone very well.
I'm really lonely and I'm getting
Am I destined to be dateless forever?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
I know it isn't easy to be 15 and it also isn't easy
to be the new kid on the block.
I know that it seems
everyone has someone but you but believe me, that just
How quickly we get a boyfriend in early
adolescence has very little to do with what will
happen to you in the future.
My guess is that moving
to a new town put you back in your socialization a bit
but don't worry, you will catch up! No one is
Some beautiful girls that I know
don't start dating till college, largely because they
just aren't ready emotionally. As a matter of fact, I
find many girls rush into having boyfriends because
they lack the emotional security to be on their own a
little while longer.
Here's my advice: Don't despair!
Use this time to
work on yourself and make yourself the best self you
can possibly be. Work on your self esteem and
confidence. Do well in school, develop some other
interests, possibly a sport, musical instrument, or
something that you can really excel at, make some good
girl friends to hang out with, and be patient with
If you feel insecure about your looks ( and
what girl your age doesn't) join a gym or do whatever
it takes to help your body image.
Above all, even though you feel lonely and sad, try to
smile and say hi to people you wouldn't ordinarily
greet. That will make you feel more self assured. You
would be surprised how others respond to people
reaching out to them.
High school is a painful time and has its ups
and downs. Life really does get better so don't be so
hard on yourself.
Give yourself time and space to
develop into someone that you yourself like! Others
will notice and like you too.