Relationship Advice from Dr. TRuth
Dear Doctor TRuth:
I really like this girl. We have never once met, but I feel a strong attraction to her.
One day I wrote a letter to her telling her that I liked her.
I wasn't asking her out on a date because I'm too scared to date, then lose that person like my last girlfriend.
I just wanted someone who could be closer than a friend, somebody who I could really open myself up to.
I don't trust my family or my other friends because my family gives and talks about secrets like everyday conversations and my friends are in another world.
I can only trust somebody for whom I felt the same as I did my last girlfriend who I fell in real love with.
I still love her even after three and a half years. I'm too scared to talk to the last girl, and she has a boyfriend and I don't want to interrupt their relationship.
Well, this other girl, who I wrote the letter to has a boyfriend, but I didn't know about it.
I wrote her another one asking for forgiveness and a response if she wanted to say anything.
It's been about a week and she hasn't responded yet. I want to fix this problem but I can't since she's not talking to me.
I don't know what to do. I was just asking for somebody to talk to about my problems, but now I'm totally confused what to do, I don't think she understands me.
I believe she still thinks I was trying to ask her out, but I want to explain to her my real intentions.
I don't know what to do at all.
I'm restless every night, averaging 3 hours of sleep.
You definitely need a friend and you definitely need someone to talk to.
Aren't there any guy friends around that you hang with.
Is your own family so insensitive that if you really told your Mom how alone
you feel that she wouldn't listen?
How long as the sleep thing been happening?
If that goes on, you will need to see a doctor. As far as the girl on the bus, forget her.
If she is too weird to answer you, she is not worth knowing.
You didn't do anything wrong.
You didn't know she was with anyone, so big deal! Please
don't lose any more sleep over that!
I think part of the problem is that you are not over your original girlfriend and that you really miss that closeness.
I understand completely how you feel but you have to deal with that grief because that is what is making it hard for you to move on.
Try to expand your social circle and get more of a life.
Get involved in school, some activities, whatever.
You might get busy enough to not worry about her anymore.
You also might get tired enough to get some sleep.