Relationship Advice from Dr. TRuth
Dear Dr. TRuth,
Ummm, could you, uhh...Help a shy guy(me), tell someone else I like
them/ways to meet them?
You see, I have troubles socializing, and need some help.
I wouldn't have a clue how to start, as I am very tame,
keeping pretty much quiet almost all the time, yet I write love poems...
that is, of the love I've never had.
How many people can honestly say that "I'm 16, and never been kissed."
Well I can.
Anyway, that probably sounded real mean, so I should end now...
Lots of sixteen year old guys have never been kissed
and you are not alone.
I can tell from your letter
that self-esteem is an issue for you.
You seem to keep
to yourself and not reach out to people very much.
Instead of making finding love your focus, try to
develop your personality to be more outgoing.
smile and say hi to people, even when you don't feel
Work on the parts of yourself that you like
and start to try to build friendships with both sexes.
Shyness is definitely a problem and if you can't deal
with it on your own, counseling may be helpful to you.
Remember that you don't have to be incredibly outgoing
to make friends, just show an interest in life and the
people around you.
Try not to spend time so much alone
but start to hook up with groups of people in
Many people your age are shy
and frightened; they may cover it over a little better
but these feelings are universal.
Anyone who writes
love poetry is warm, sensitive, feeling and caring.
know that you have a lot to offer and you need to
believe it too.
You are just the type of boy that girls
would like - if only you would let them get to know you.
Try reaching out a bit.