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Relationship Advice from Dr. Luvmore |
Dear Dr. Luvmore,
I recently lied to my g/f twice in like one or two weeks about me and a friend going out of town.
I told her I was going with a guy friend, and it was really one of my friends that was a girl. The reason I did this is b/c I didn't want her to worry that I was going to do anything with this girl, but she found out.
I tried to keep it from her but that didn't work, then last Friday I was at the mall with another one of my friends that is a girl, and I didn't tell her I was with her, and she found out again.
Then I went to Austin with some of my friends this past weekend, and when I would talk to her on the phone, I knew something was wrong with her.
When i got home on Tuesday, she came over and we talked, and she broke up with me for those reasons.
I don't know why I can't tell her the truth, I love this girl with all my heart! She means the world to me.
I can't eat, I can't sleep, I need this girl in my life!
What do I do to get her back?
Please help me,
Lost
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Dear 'Lost',
First and foremost, you need to learn to tell the truth!
If you truly trust someone and feel close to that person, then you have to trust that they will understand the truth.
As far as this girlfriend, trust is a difficult thing to rebuild. It doesn't happen overnight.
Your best bet right now is to talk to her, let her know how much she means to you and make no excuses for your mistakes.
If you truly feel that you can change this behavior, you need to try to convince her of this. You can't force it on her, it may take time. You can't prove you've changed your ways simply through talking to her- It has to be through your actions.
Give her time, don't smother her with apologies, but make sure she knows how you feel.
This may be a difficult lesson to learn; but it is one that if applied correctly, can help you in future relationships and your life in general.
Dr. Luvmore
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